Time. It comes and it goes but why does it go so slowly in the NICU? Each second feels like minutes. Each minute feels like hours. Each hour feels like days and sometimes weeks. Albert Einstein said, “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.” Can you imagine if everything in the NICU happened at one time? You’d collapse from the anxiety. The doctors and nurses would fall over from the pressure and the entire operation might implode!

Thankfully time is doled out to us a bit at a time. One way to manage time during your NICU stay (or even once you’re home) is to stay present. Be in this moment right now. This is no time for scheduling unnecessary appointments that you may not be able to keep or scheduling social appointments that will only be a distraction. …


Did you know that you have two minds? You have a conscious mind that is always thinking. It’s the great trickster. It fools you into thinking whatever you need to in order to protect yourself. Your subconscious mind protects our will — what you really want. It is the guardian of our truth and weaves the patterns of who we are.

To conquer your mind, you must conquer your subconscious mind. This is the mind that you have to develop a stronger relationship with. Your identity is that which you create subconsciously. …


“The Key to Change…Is To Let Go of Fear” — Roseanne Cash

Fear is real and we all have it at some point or another. Sometimes we’re really clear about where the fear begins and sometimes, we have no idea. It’s just a feeling that we can’t quite contain. It causes us to make poor decisions, say things that we don’t mean and develop a perspective on life that is tainted.

Fear is a paralyzing emotion. It stops you in your tracks. Fear puts a wall between you and your goals, your loved ones and truly living your life.

So the question is, “how do you get rid of your fear”. The answer — you don’t. You can’t get rid of fear. It’s like trying to get rid of a part of who you are. But, you can tame it. The key is having awareness that fear is there but writing a different story around it. It’s the awareness that is the key to managing your fear and your reaction to it. …


The overwhelming majority of accidents that happen in race car driving are due to driver error. In race car driving, among the first things they teach you is how to regain control in an out-of-control situation.

There is so much to learn about life from race car driving.

If you go out-of-control, one thing they recommend in the driver’s manual is to change the line you are currently driving to regain control. If you don’t change the line, it could result in a possible collision with an object you don’t even see. In life, when you feel out of control, change your course. …


Time. It comes and it goes but why does it go so slowly in the NICU? Each second feels like minutes. Each minute feels like hours. Each hour feels like days and sometimes weeks. Albert Einstein said, “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.” Can you imagine if everything in the NICU happened at one time? You’d collapse from the anxiety. The doctors and nurses would fall over from the pressure and the entire operation might implode!

Thankfully time is doled out to us a bit at a time. One way to manage time during your NICU stay (or even once you’re home) is to stay present. Be in this moment right now. This is no time for scheduling unnecessary appointments that you may not be able to keep or scheduling social appointments that will only be a distraction. …


My friends have been checking in because I’ve been silent about the current state of affairs on social media. I’ve been numb. I cried my way through most of last week. I couldn’t breathe. I checked on my son who lives in the throws of the protests in Philadelphia. I still couldn’t breathe. I talked to my 22 year old, very woke daughter to get her thoughts. When we hung up, I still couldn’t breathe. I checked in with my 14 year old yesterday to see how she was feeling about all of this. She grabbed my phone, went to my Instagram account and helped me post “black” for #blackouttuesday. I talked to my Dad to ask him “was this what the 1960’s were like?” He said “No. This is way worse.” I still can’t breathe. I woke up yesterday and asked my partner, “Is the country still burning?” He said “yes” and it was only then that I realized that what’s happening in our country is not a terrible nightmare that I can’t wake up from. …

Tami Gaines

Author, Messenger & Entrepreneur

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