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You never know what you are capable of until you live through the toughest time in your life. Dealing with adversity can make or break you — it all depends on how you deal with it.

Five years ago, I had to navigate the most difficult and transformational period of my life. Within just five months, I became unexpectedly (but joyously) pregnant with twins; my husband of 12 years left me over my decision to keep the twins and started a very unexpected and nasty divorce proceeding. I was placed on hospitalized bedrest for six weeks trying to stay pregnant…


30 Day Mental Fast — 30 Days to a New You From the Inside Out

I had the pleasure of training with Jerry Clark in the summer of 2012. All of his information was outstanding but when I he introduced the concept of the “30 Day Mental Fast”, I knew it was a game changer. I’ve been faced with a tremendous amount of adversity in the last many years so I already understand the importance of managing your thoughts and keeping negativity at bay. However, Jerry Clark’s clear system for doing the same is worth sharing.

Be warned — this…


The Rebirth of Soul process was developed to help people grow through their challenges, not just go through them. Being able to take a major life challenge and those people involved in it, and see them both from a new perspective, requires emotional maturity. This is where Emotional Intelligence (EQ) comes into play.

Many people think “emotions” are a pain. Some believe that their lives would be better without emotions but the truth is that emotions are a useful source to help make sense and navigate our social environment.

Emotions Serve a Useful Purpose

Managing your emotions begins with being…


Time. It comes and it goes but why does it go so slowly in the NICU? Each second feels like minutes. Each minute feels like hours. Each hour feels like days and sometimes weeks. Albert Einstein said, “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.” Can you imagine if everything in the NICU happened at one time? You’d collapse from the anxiety. The doctors and nurses would fall over from the pressure and the entire operation might implode!

Thankfully time is doled out to us a bit at a time. One way to manage time…


Did you know that you have two minds? You have a conscious mind that is always thinking. It’s the great trickster. It fools you into thinking whatever you need to in order to protect yourself. Your subconscious mind protects our will — what you really want. It is the guardian of our truth and weaves the patterns of who we are.

To conquer your mind, you must conquer your subconscious mind. This is the mind that you have to develop a stronger relationship with. Your identity is that which you create subconsciously. …


“The Key to Change…Is To Let Go of Fear” — Roseanne Cash

Fear is real and we all have it at some point or another. Sometimes we’re really clear about where the fear begins and sometimes, we have no idea. It’s just a feeling that we can’t quite contain. It causes us to make poor decisions, say things that we don’t mean and develop a perspective on life that is tainted.

Fear is a paralyzing emotion. It stops you in your tracks. Fear puts a wall between you and your goals, your loved ones and truly living your life.

So…


The overwhelming majority of accidents that happen in race car driving are due to driver error. In race car driving, among the first things they teach you is how to regain control in an out-of-control situation.

There is so much to learn about life from race car driving.

If you go out-of-control, one thing they recommend in the driver’s manual is to change the line you are currently driving to regain control. If you don’t change the line, it could result in a possible collision with an object you don’t even see. In life, when you feel out of control…


Time. It comes and it goes but why does it go so slowly in the NICU? Each second feels like minutes. Each minute feels like hours. Each hour feels like days and sometimes weeks. Albert Einstein said, “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn’t happen at once.” Can you imagine if everything in the NICU happened at one time? You’d collapse from the anxiety. The doctors and nurses would fall over from the pressure and the entire operation might implode!

Thankfully time is doled out to us a bit at a time. One way to manage time…


My friends have been checking in because I’ve been silent about the current state of affairs on social media. I’ve been numb. I cried my way through most of last week. I couldn’t breathe. I checked on my son who lives in the throws of the protests in Philadelphia. I still couldn’t breathe. I talked to my 22 year old, very woke daughter to get her thoughts. When we hung up, I still couldn’t breathe. I checked in with my 14 year old yesterday to see how she was feeling about all of this. She grabbed my phone, went to…

Tami Gaines

Author, Messenger & Entrepreneur

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